Thoughts on Thursday: Baby Fever

by Ally Harding, 5:00 AM

I have baby fever. But here's the funny thing, I really don't because I know we aren't going to start trying for a few years. I don't know if it's reading all these blogs with cute babies and Mom's who make raising children look easy or is it just I'm getting to the age where I should be thinking about have kids. Here's an example, a girl at work told us the other night she's pregnant and I was so happy for her but also kind of sad it wasn't me! I've never felt like that before, it was so strange! When we were in Atlanta visiting my in laws and my SIL made a comment about how she was hoping I was pregnant. It got me thinking, this is the first time in my life I feel like if I did get pregnant it wouldn't ruin my life. I hate to say that a kids ruins your life. What I mean is up until I got married if I randomly got pregnant it would ruin the plans I had. Like if I was to get pregnant in nursing school then I would of had to drop out and probably never finish. If I had gotten pregnant while planning our wedding I would of had to get a whole new dress and probably nix the honeymoon to be able to afford a new baby. But right now in my life if I did get pregnant it wouldn't be the best timing since we haven't even been married for a year yet but my life wouldn't take a halt and I'd have to change my plans around. Which is a comforting feeling. Now don't think I'm trying to get pregnant anytime soon because I'm not at all!



I also have a lot of worries about being pregnant too. I have a genetic kidney disease my mom has and my grandpa had. It's called Polycystic Kidney Disease and it basically means I have cysts on my kidneys. I also have cysts on my liver. What does that all mean, well nothing really right now. I unfortunately have high blood pressure from it and have been on meds since I was 20. I have to get lab work done every 6 months to make sure my kidney function is still good, and it is, and I should probably work out more than I do just to be healthier. My grandpa never had any issues with PKD and my mom hasn't either aside from also being on blood pressure meds. But my mom has also been a workout feign since she was 18 and I'm not at all. I worry about the pregnancy putting strain on my already diseased kidneys. I also worry about how my blood pressure will do once I get pregnant since it's already high does that I mean I'm at a higher risk for pre eclampsia? Of course it does. My mom said she was on the verge of being pre eclamptic but like I said I feel like she was in much better shape than I am when she was my age.



Then I worry my child will get PKD. There's a 50/50 chance my children will and although I've been lucky to have the sort of benign version, some are not as lucky. Some babies are born with it and have kidney failure and don't make it. 



Sorry this is such a depressing topic but it's constantly in the back of my mind. I see all these girls have easy pregnancies and all I can do is hope I do too but I do worry. 

Do you guys have any worries about pregnancy or if you've been pregnant before do you have any advice my neurotic self?
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  1. I agree! I am getting the baby fever bug myself! I have a ton of worries about being a preggo too - I am gonna have to read a lot of books about it!

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  2. Wow. It's like you're already pregnant and a mom with all of your worrying. That's what moms do best, by the way. I was terrified my entire pregnancy and just knew there would be something wrong with the baby. There wasn't. Like everything else in life, it's completely out of our control and in God's hands. All we can do is have faith and pray. I think you would make a wonderful mom. When the baby bug hits, it hits bad.

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  3. girl, i totally feel you. first - in the way that we're still newly married but thinking about kids. i am not ready to start trying yet either...but i daydream about it ALL the time. it's this weird juxtaposition of i can't wait!!!...but i can, really. and my heart goes out to you with the pregnancy woes too. my sister has similarish concern as a result of crohn's. it's a hard thing just to be like, well, i guess we'll see how things to when i'm pregnant. so scary. but all we can do is s surrender to God!! you're not alone on that one...my little sis worries about it lots and she's not even married yet! :)

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  4. I totally have baby fever too!! We're at the same point where we'd like to wait but it would be wonderful if it happened now, and not as much of a game changer if it had been a few years ago. I definitely worry about whether or not I'll have an easy pregnancy, I'm also so worried about a miscarriage. The best things you can do it just talk to your doctor, and even a genetic counselor, and pray and hopefully that will ease your mind! :)

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  5. I worry about being pregnant all the time. Raising children is probably the most important thing I'm going to do. I have mild asthma and pretty bad allergies so I worry about having a bad asthma attack or an allergic reaction to something while pregnant. But me and my husband would love to have children and this is the first time in our life that me being pregnant wouldn't be an almost insurmountable challenge. If it happens so I would just wish I'd have more time to to prepare by eating better and getting more exercise.

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  6. I got married this past summer and it is crazy to think that getting pregnant wouldn't be such a big deal anymore! Not that we are ready for kids, we want to wait a couple of years, but it wouldn't cause so much struggle as it would have in the past! I have an auto-immune disease and there is a lot that I worry about in terms of getting pregnant. I guess all we can do is rely on God's plan for us, which is very hard for me as I like to be in control of everything haha. We made a list of things we want to do before we have kids and we are concentrating on that and having fun.. I'm sure that would help take the mind off baby fever!

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  7. I got married in June and I've got a little bit of baby fever too. I know a baby wouldn't ruin our lives either, but I also know that now is not the time. We will appreciate and be better parents if we wait longer, but selfishly, sometimes, I just want it to happen now!!

    I have a lot of anxiety - and I worry how I will ever be able to have a baby and not worry myself sick over it. Pregnancy is scary, and I can totally understand why it seems even scarier with you. Have faith that your mom was able to have you, and stayed healthy - and you will too. I think once you are ready to get pregnant and you start having real conversations with your doctor you will be comforted by how much they can do to keep you and baby healthy.

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  8. Maybe you'll get some of your fears/worries out of the way before taking the parenthood plunge, although as a mama, I doubt they ever go away. Prayers and faith are key, just like the other ladies say, it sounds like! PS We should get preg at the same time...thoughts hah?

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  9. You know I have the baby fever in full effect and I worry all the time too about different things when it comes to pregnancy. But you can't control it so what's the point in worrying about it?

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  10. Your worrying is just the beginning of being a parent :) it's constant worrying and 1000 other emotions. While a huge (and scary decision) once you take the plunge, it will be an experience you'll truly enjoy xo

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  11. I completely understand how you feel! It seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant and this is really the first time in my life it wouldn't totally freak me out. Not about to start trying for another few years, but seeing all the baby stuff lately gets babies on my mind! Thanks so much for posting this and writing out so many things that have been on my mind lately. I'm so glad I'm not the only one :)

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  12. Just pace yourself - you have years to have kids and it will happen when the time is right. My husband and I tried for 5 months and even though it wasn't that long, I remember being so so sad when months went by without a pregnancy. But after it was all said and done, if I had gotten pregnant any sooner, I wouldn't have had Olivia, it would have been a different baby and I can't even think about that. It will happen with the time is right!

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  13. OMG! This is so me. If I got pregnant, it would be fine...but I would be freaking out thinking I'm not ready. There was one time I took a test just to be sure a few months ago, and I was sad when it was negative. Hahaha. It's such a weird time for married girls in their mid 20's.

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  14. I had baby fever for years before I got pregnant- it's funny because I feel like my baby fever was worse before I was trying to get pregnant. I don't think I really every wrote about it but I was a total neurotic pregnant woman- all I did was worry about anything that could possibly go wrong. Not that the worrying has stopped now that I'm a mom but it's a different kind of worrying and I feel a bit more in control.
    My best advice is don't have a baby until you are really ready to give up your life because they are so much work and will completely change your life. Yes having a baby is the most amazing thing I've ever done but it's also now takes me about 45 mins to get ready to run a 5 min errand to Target for toilet paper! I also have not had one single date night with my husband in almost 4 months :)

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  15. Girlfriend... this is the story OF MY LIFE!! Seriously... I get such baby fever, and then I need to remind myself that I go to church on Saturday nights so I can sleep in on Sunday morning!!

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  16. This is how it all starts ;) But everyone is right--it'll happen when it's supposed to {perhaps I should take some of this advice?}

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