Finding the time

by Ally Harding, 5:00 AM
Linking up with Natalie and Annie again for

Thoughts for Thursday





Ok fellow bloggers, I need your help. When do you all find the time to write a post, comment on other blogs, respond to the comments on your blog, work, sleep, eat, and manage to have a few conversations with your loved ones?! When I worked night shift I had all the time in the world to write posts and read other blogs and comment. I was even able to knock out two posts in a day at times. With my new schedule sometimes I can write a post but that doesn't leave any time to read other blogs or respond to the comments on my blog. I know what Theo's answer would be, to quit blogging. And I do feel bad coming home after a day at work and telling him to give me 10 minutes to write a post but secretly in my head knowing it'll be more like an hour. Then I finish my post and I need to read other blogs. I gotta support my blogger friends! So not only am I wasting time we could be spending together writing a post, I'm also spending time reading blogs afterwards. He finally said to me yesterday "Ally this has got to stop. You spend way too much time on your phone reading blogs." He's exactly right. So other bloggers who are married and have families, when do you find the time to blog? I know everyone's schedules are different but I'm interested to know how you fit blogging into your day. 



I truly love blogging and reading other blogs but when it's starting to take away precious time from my main man, then it's causing a problem. I never wanted blogging to become a hassle, and it isn't. I just don't have the time like I used to. I think I have a bit of OCD in me and really like to have 5 posts a week. I'm just going to have to get over that and realize quality over quantity matters more.  As much as I would love it to be, blogging will never be my full time job. Since I won't be blogging as often, what kind of topics would you like to read from me? I'd rather spend my time writing out a thought provoking post rather than a simple one with pictures all over it just so I can say I blogged today. 




After all, I started blogging as an escape from normal life. To talk about the things on my mind and to post about what I'm loving right now. Blogging has sense turned into my normal life, I just need to find the time to for it. 

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  1. I know how this feels girly! I work night shift now but am in the transition to days soon - and I worry about this! Still, when I work 3 12hr shifts in a row I have no time. When I am crunched for time, theses are the strategies I follow!
    -I pick my top 10 - 12 posts on my blog feed that interest me most. I want to comment on everyones but that just isnt possible. On busy days pick your favs.
    -If you have a day where your boy is gone or busy doing other things, then I sit down, crank out some posts from pre planned ideas, and comment like crazy!
    -Definitely use a blog planner. I sent out a free one in my last newsletter. I find that if I plan my posts out way in advance (im talking 1 - 2 weeks) then I spend a lot less time at the actual computer.
    -social media like instagram is a great way to let bloggers know you still follow along and like their material, without having to read a post. You can just hit the like button!
    -I like posting everyday too, but when I had less time and less content, I posted M, Tu, Th, F.

    I hope this helped girly!

    www.madeintheshadeblog.com

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  2. I constantly struggle with this! When I worked full time I would read blogs and work on posts all day here and there and when I had a flexible work schedule I was able to schedule time each day for blog stuff. Now that I'm home all day with a baby I just don't have the time to sit in front of a computer like I used to. I find that most days I can get a post up but I have no time for reading other blogs or responding to emails and I hate that. I don't want to become one of those bloggers who never communicates with their readers! I also think it's important to set limits on blogging though. Once it becomes a chore and is no longer fun it isn't worth it. I try to set aside 1-2 hours a day for blog stuff. I usually try to do some in the morning before Kyle and Miller wake up and then some in the evening when Miller's asleep but before Kyle is home from work. He hates me cutting into "our time" with my "virtual friends." He does not understand blogging at all. When I have a chunk of free time- like on a Sunday or when Miller takes a long nap I try my best to get some posts started or just spend an hour or two commenting and catching up on blogs. I have a loose schedule of what I want to talk about each day and I try to keep notes on my phone with ideas for posts. I try my best to answer emails through out the day from my phone. I've been blogging on and off for 5 years and I've found that the people that love you and your blog will stick around even if you take a break or cut back to just a few days a week. Don't put too much pressure on yourself- it's supposed to be fun!

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  3. I totally get what you're saying and I think it really helps that I have a "desk job" if you will...I'm constantly looking at email and looking at blogs (time permitting). If you have a weekend night when maybe theo is out of town and you aren't planning to go out - maybe you could hunker down and bust out like 3-4 posts that you have had on your mind and write those...then you can easily just publish! It is hard to keep up with other blogs, comments, and coming up with consistently good posts. But like Nat say - we come to your blog because we love what you write about so we'll come back whether you post 5 times a week or 3 times a week!!

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  4. It's soooo hard! I read blogs during breakfast and write mine when and if Ivey naps but sometimes I have more pressing things to take care of during that "free" 1-2 hours. I've had to get over the guilt of not posting daily and sometimes I just don't have anything to say anyways. Can you write a few posts over the weekend to schedule for the week? Could you write and/or read blogs over your lunch hour?

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  5. I love your blogs and posts, but I wonder to save time, if you could scale them back? (I think I could get the same general message without as much content.) For example, just do your top 3 obsessions, or your top 3 online shopping finds for that week instead of ALL of your favorites? I'd hate to see you go but understand that it's a top priority to spend face time with your loved ones.

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  6. This is a hard one because finding the balance is definitely a challenge. When I was working full time (as in last month!) I would usually read some of my favorite blogs when I was waiting for my computer to start up at work or during lunch. I mostly wrote at night when the kids were sleeping and my husband was in class. But I definitely had weeks when I didn't come close to 5 posts and some weeks when I didn't have time (or was too tired) to post at all. Now I try to read in the mornings while my kids play or at night after they're in bed but that drives my husband crazy because I'm not spending time with him. This week I'm trying blogging my own posts while the girls nap/have quiet time. I don't think there is a perfect solution so you need to find what works for you and cut yourself some slack! Oh and my inbox is a MESS right now because I haven't figured out when I can find the time to respond to people's sweet comments! Don't make yourself crazy - this is meant to be a fun outlet! Xo

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  7. I think every blogger can relate to this post and definitely at certain times during the year. I know at the beginning of this year I was having a really hard time getting posts out and it sometimes meant I was only posting once a week, but I was needing the break. Then I got back into it and got in the groove again and tried to work it into my schedule. I really hate having to blog at night when my husbands home because 1. he doesn't understand blogs at all and 2. it feels like I am totally ignoring him. So I try to get most of my blogging done during the day when I'm home with Brody and he's usually taking his morning nap. That's also when I try and read and comment on other blogs. It's not easy and definitely in your job when you are on the go all day at work that your time at home is the only time to get it done. My husband usually has a work dinner or work travel about once a week or every other week and those are the nights I try to knock out several posts!!! Now the Mom's that work full time and then come home to their kid(s) and husband and still manage to blog...I don't have a clue how they do it. I'm very lucky to be able to stay home with my little man!

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  8. I struggled a lot last year when i was sick and i didnt have the energy to blog after full day of work... i decided to skip blogging on thursdays. it really helped taking out a day. i also talked to my husband about how much time i spend on my computer blogging we agreed that every night ill spend an hour blogging and he will study or read for an hour. I also try to do most of my blog graphics over the weekend -- sometimes i dont get to it and i have to do it in the morning. aside from the weekend i do the majority of my blogging in the morning before work (i wake up at 630 but dont leave for work until 830 AM). everyones schedule is different but you need to prioritize your life according to what makes YOU happy -- not others! good luck! xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  9. Don't feel pressured to post so much, I feel like some bloggers really stretch to get a blog post up almost everyday...and in my opinion it's just not worth it. I actually prefer when people post less often, and the posts are higher quality. There is such a thing as over-exposure! As for commenting, I try to comment on my favorite blogs whenever they post, but when people post 5 times a week that's just not going to happen. So realistically, I try to comment at least once a week on one of their posts. I just truly don't find it necessary to comment every single time when people post that often, as I follow a lot of blogs! I hope and pray people understand it doesn't mean I'm not reading...it's just that I have a busy life and adding a comment to each and every post from each and every blogger is SO time consuming. I also don't respond to all the comments people leave on MY blog. If all you're saying is "love that top!", "cute picks!" I don't feel like a response is exactly necessary. Sure, if I had the time, I'd like to respond with a "thank you!" to each and every comment...but again, I just don't. So if you're not asking me a question or leaving a really meaningful, lengthy comment...I don't respond. I sometimes worry people think that's bitchy, but for me it comes down to would I rather respond to their comment, or go comment back on one of their posts? For me, I'd rather have people come comment back on my blog than respond with a "thanks for the comment!" Blogging can be SO time consuming, just do what works for you! I for one will always be coming back to read your blog, no matter how often you post!

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  10. I can relate to this one for sure! I agree with what most of the other commenters are saying. Definitely cut down your amount of posts a week. I know I feel like a bad blogger when I only post 2 to 3 times a week and others post every day of the week, but I have to do what works for me! The Friday five posts and Monday weekending posts are pretty easy and help fill in when I don't have something great lined up too. They are just a quick (sort of) post about what's going on in life. Also, I find it helpful to try to build up as many post ideas as I can. So I might just start a post with only a few notes and then I can come back to it later and finish it. Or I might have several posts ready and won't have to write much for a couple weeks. Commenting on other blogs is tough too! I try to do it on my lunch break or when I have a moment in the day. Good luck!

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  11. I think making sure you don't stress if you don't have a post up EVERY SINGLE DAY is pretty key to keeping your sanity (it is for me anyway). And I am NOT a morning person, but I find myself trying to get up an hour earlier than I'd like so I can get a post written/check blogs. AND when I'm really on schedule (which rarely happens) I'll use Kiernan's nap on Sundays to try to write several posts ahead of time. Even if they're not 100% flushed out, it's still easier to steal a little time here or there to finish them before they're set to publish.

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  12. I have SUCH a hard time finding time too! As you can tell....hahah! I don't post as much as I wish could. I really agree with quality over quantity. I love all your posts!! Especially personal ones- about the new job, weekend adventures, etc.

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  13. You are definitely not alone! After Dustin changed jobs recently he started having to get up at 5 am rather than 3:30 am like before, I decided that was doable and started getting up with him. He leaves at 5:30, so from 5:30-7am that is my coffee and blog time. I spend it working on my blog and reading others. I always pop in periodically throughout the day from work, I am able to do that at my job though. Also, this week I started posting 3 times a week rather than 5. Some weeks it might be more, but my plan is 3 days a week. So far, I am really feeling like I have found my balance. Once our house sells though and we move to FL it may be a nightmare haha, we'll see! I hope you are able to find what works for you girl! It is a struggle that we all get ;)

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  14. Here is the real issue: We got all these other bloggers trying to get A+s. Guests post when people are away. People staying up till midnight to make sure their face/blog is the first in a linkup. But, clearly, that mentality ain't going nowhere. I say forget and you do you. If you posted twice a week I would still read your blog faithfully. I struggle with the same because work for me can get REAL CRAY CRAY and I LET THE BLOG GO. I try to read other's LATE at night on my ipad when I can't even blog myself because supporting others is always more important to me. I post each day, each morning when I first get to work and then don't take a lunch usually. And I comment throughout the day on my phone in meetings (haha-eeek!!!). I NEVER blog when I get home because that is family time UNLESS all my chores are done, the baby is in the bed and the hubs is entertained with something himself. You will find the balance!!

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  15. YES to this! Lately I've been struggling with keeping up with my inbox and finding time to comment on the long (and growing) list of blogs I read. Having a schedule of what you're going to post helps me and sometimes I'll sit down (like on a Sunday) and knock out as many posts as I can. But the hardest part is the emails. I LOVE the comments but I'm starting to think I might not respond to all of them anymore.. that being said, I don't want to sound ungrateful for them and come across as a b*tch by never responding you know?!

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  16. It's definitely very hard to find the time for all of this! I sit at a computer all day, so usually I can read blogs, write a post, and then I respond to emails when I get home (Gmail is on lock down at work ha). But sense that isn't really an option for you to do it during the day, maybe during a lunch break? Or have a "set" time where Theo knows you're reading/writing and when the time is up, you have to put the phone down. You'll find something that works! It's not fun anymore if it is a stresser to you or to T.! XO

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  17. You know what is funny just the other day I was talking about you. Well referencing to how people who don't have a desk job are able to blog because it is such a time commitment. My friends shot back at me "they are stay at home mom's" "they don't work" yada yada. (Which actually was pretty offensive) I said I have a friend who is a nurse and she finds time to blog so that is absolutely not the case everywhere! Sadly I do all my blogging and blog reading at work (shh!) except for on Sunday and that small time I do on Sunday, my husband complains. Just don't worry about posting more than you need to! We will all still be here!

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  18. It's something that I struggle with constantly. I usually take the mornings to read and comment and try to write my posts at night. Lately this hasn't been happening so well, so I write the posts in the morning but don't have enough time to read everyone else's blogs so I just pick out a few (my favorites) and comment. Then I'll try again at night to read, comment and answer emails. It's hard and sometimes I get guilt over it. I don't want to take time away from my kids to blog, but I don't want to stop blogging because it's so much fun and something that I'm passionate about.
    I need to be better about setting times for myself so that I don't spend too much time reading, commenting and spending times on blogs.

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  19. I think you took this post right out of my brain - seriously! I just started a new job, too, and I'm so overwhelmed with that and the changes it has brought about that blogging and commenting have both taken a major back seat. I've recently thought about cutting down the number of blogs I read because just feeling like they are out there piling up on my feedly app stresses me out a little bit. I comment on far fewer than I read, so I could probably stand to purge my reading list a bit. But you are so right - it is not something that should take away from quality time with husbands/family. Glad to know I'm not the only one that struggles with this! I think at the end of the day I am just going to have to be ok with posting less but trying to be sure that my blog is a quality over quantity space. Some of my favorite blogs to read are not blogs that post all that often, but when they do post, it is a treat to read and see what they've been up to, so I try to remember that when I feel guilty or disappointed about posting fewer times a week than I'd like.

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  20. It is definitely so hard to find time for blogging - it can really be a black hole of time... don't stop writing though, you're so great at it!

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  21. This is such a good post, I read every comment and love all the advice you got!! :). I can totally understand the struggle!!!!! ;)

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  22. Okay those graphics are all perfect! I've been struggling with this A LOT lately too, so I'm interested to go back and read what everyone else wrote. I usually have quite a few posts scheduled in advance, but I don't like to put a post up if I won't have time to respond to comments or comment on other people's blogs!

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  23. Girl I am right there with you! When I worked the night shift it was so easy and I felt like I had so much more time! Now that I'm finally in a better routine after my new job as mommy, I find setting aside an hour in the morning during nap time is really all I can manage. It's tough!

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  24. Loved reading all of these comments. I've definitely slowed down with blogging as my life has sped up. I no longer feel the pressure to post a certain number of times per week, but instead, post when I feel like I have something to say.

    I love my blog, and I always think back to why I started it: to keep friends and family updated on my life in Peoria. That's it. I can't stress about new followers, a "post quota", or whatever else.

    Just post when you feel like it, read when you feel like it. Honestly, if you find yourself skipping over someone's posts allllll the time, unfollow. Declutter your Bloglovin' feed. :)

    Love you blog and hope you never stop, but I certainly understand a "slow down." :)

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