Happiness

by Ally Harding, 7:00 AM

I've been thinking a lot about what means more to me in life and what brings me happiness. I recently changed jobs and went from being pretty miserable working night shift to working day shift. Not only does working nights suck but so do the days off from work. I was always tired. Theo says my famous words were "I'm exhausted." I had no motivation to workout on my days off, clean the house, walk the dog, or even consider going back to school. I knew something had to give so I applied for other jobs. I got offered a job working in an area of the hospital I've always wanted to work in, but best of all I'm now working day shift. I love the job so far. I know everyone loves a new job because it's new, exciting and different but I really am much happier. I have so much more motivation now. I'm not sleeping all day on my days off, I'm working out again, applying to go back to school, but most of all I'm with Theo every.single.night. The job is great, except I had to take a pay cut. Not a huge amount but when you're used to getting a certain amount every 2 weeks and now you aren't, it puts a damper on things. Theo and I were talking about it the other day and I told him that although I am making less money I'm much happier and that's all that matters, right? Does more money make you happier even if you're unhappy with your job? Or does having more quality time at home, taking better care of yourself, overall feeling better but making less money make you happier? This is something I'm trying to figure out. I honestly think it was a blessing in disguise. I was doing a lot of online shopping working nights, buying things I didn't need but I was bored with my life so shopping gave me instant happiness. I haven't bought a single thing online since this starting this job and I don't have the urge to like I used to. 



 This has been an eyeopener and made me reevaluate my priorities in life. We're always going to want more. A bigger house, a nicer car, a new dress, it never ends. As soon as we get what we had to have, we're on to something else. I'm extremely guilty of this. When I look back on things that truly brought me happiness, it wasn't a new blouse, it's the vacations we go on, a walk with my husband and my dog, a nice dinner out. It's the time spent with the people you love and care about, not that designer bag sitting in your closet, but it does feel good carrying it! We're still newlyweds so we're still trying to figure out our whole financial situation but it is so easy to get caught up in wanting more. Sometime it's nice to sit back and really think about what matters in life.



Life is too short to be unhappy and this is what I kept telling myself whenever I complained about working nights. I felt like I was missing out on life. So to me I'll take the pay cut as long as it means happiness in the long run. 







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  1. Love this! Yes, money is fleeting. One day you're rolling in it, the next day you're looking for spare change. I quit my job to be a stay at home mom and missed my nice salary and benefits for sure, but the trade off was more than worth it. I truly believe the saying "you spend what you make." Congrats on the job, new found energy, and and happiness!

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  2. I am definitely willing to take a slight pay cut if it means finding a job with better hours and less weekends! I would definitely be a happier camper! :) Good for you!

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  3. I have that first print! It's my favorite!

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  4. Yay!! I am so glad you're feeling happier. I think being happy in your job is so, so important. I stayed in a good paying miserable job for 4 years- I was a serious bitch all the time when I worked there. I left and took a commission only job and while my shopping budget was cut in half but I was so much happier. Things are just things, spending time with family and friends and making memories is so much more important.

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  5. Also thanks for linking up!! :)

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  6. Found your blog from the link-up! I love this, and I think you hit the nail on the head - we are always wanting more, more, more. Really, the things we value most though are the memories and time with people we love. For what it's worth, I think the pay cut is ABSOLUTELY worth your happiness, health, and time investing in memories and people you love. xo

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  7. Totally agree... it's better to be happier! The money is nice, but your happiness is everything :)

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  8. Love these thoughts. You're so right. Happiness over dollars any day, everyday! xx

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  9. I've just gone through something like this! I'm between jobs and got an offer for a job that I wouldn't be a good fit for, but debated whether or not to take it just for the income. You have to do what makes you happy - and the money will come.
    - Catherine, cgspringer.blogspot.com

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  10. I couldn't agree with this more!! Money does not bring happiness into your life - it's the quality of your life and the people you surround yourself with that bring you the most joy!! It's so great that you did something about your unhappiness! So many people just complain but do nothing - you only have one life so you might as well enjoy every minute of it!!

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  11. I love this, and I love that you are so much happier! It's the moments we share with the people we love, not material things, that bring the most joy. I'm def guilty of loving material things, but as I get older I realize more and more a new blouse or pair of heels isn't nearly as precious as a vacation with Zack or with our families. I'm so happy for you that you are in a happier place in life!

    xxx

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  12. I was having this SAME conversation last night with my good guy friend from high school. He makes great money, but travels all the time, has no time for a girlfriend and is downright lonely. Money is not everything. Of course we need it (and always have our wants!) but I'm so glad to hear you are doing better and genuinely like where you're at, mentally and professionally. Cheers to no more chronological exhaustion, lady!

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  13. I can relate to this so much! Just this week I was telling my husband we should just sell everything and buy a food truck and drive all over the country-- obviously that's not going to happen, but sometimes I feel like we all want/have so much STUFF, and does any of it really matter? I'm so glad you're happier in your new position, it sounds like it was the right move for you :)

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  14. You definitely hit on something that I think so many people struggle over. Happiness is the most important thing and life is to short to be doing something that makes you miserable. I always looked at a job and realized that I was spending more time at this job than I spent at home, with my husband, family or friends, so it better be something I love doing or else I was going to be pretty miserable. The pay cut is worth it so now you can be on the same schedule with your husband and enjoy more quality time with him and your pup. And definitely a good change for that baby that will be coming one day..... :) Had to add that!!

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  15. LOVE this post! i am so happy for you, that you made a change in your life and you are happier and focusing on the really important things in life. money is NOT everything and i really dont think it'll make you happy. my husband is trying to decide what sort of jobs to apply for and while the ones with huge pay are tempting we both dont want him to kill himself working crazy hours. i'd rather have him home with our future kids! i am trying to make more of an effort to use my "shopping" budget on experiences rather than things -- brunches with friends, workout classes, dinner dates, since those are the things that really make me happy! :) xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  16. So true girl. Glad you made the change and things are going good! Dustin just left his job for the same reasons, we could care less about the pay cut, life is great now! And selling our house, leaving our jobs and financial stability and moving to FL is scary, but we can't wait to just be on the beach together starting a new journey :)

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  17. LOVE THIS! I've been feeling pretty down lately and it's been effecting my quality of life and I'm determined to try to be happier this month. Mine has been mostly job related and a few other things so hopefully I can make some adjustments and be happier again! I'm glad you're loving your new job and are happier! The money definitely isn't worth the happiness. After all, money can't buy happiness!

    <3, Pamela
    sequinsandseabreezes.blogspot.com

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  18. I totally 100% agree with this! The year before we got married, I was working 55+ hours a week- days, nights, weekends. The money was nice but I was exhausted, too and there were a lot of break downs, ha. We decided that I would cut back on work after getting married and almost a year later I can say it was so.worth.it. Even though I lost about 33% of my paycheck each month, I'm a billion times happier and at the end of the day, money can't buy happiness!

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  19. Amen! This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing what is on your heart. I say the pay cut is well worth what you got in return! ... And give it some time and you might land yourself with more money plus HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY! :) Thank you for calling us all to think about how money is not everything.

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  20. i love this post! and now i want a cupcake. seriously though, so glad you are happier now. i recently moved jobs as well, but i got a pay raise, and it meant my husband didnt have to leave his job as soon as we thought, so it turned out really well. i am also less stressed and its amazing - the online shopping is so true. i didnt work nights but shopping made me happy, and while i havent stopped completely i am like 75% better. crazy hey!

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  21. Such a great post Ally! Love an honest blog post :) So glad you like your job so much, it definitely is worth it in the end to have more time with your family! (And with me, I'm being a little selfish... haha)

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  22. This is so true lady! Working a better job for a little less pay is so worth it. I find a lot of my happy time is shopping but I find that I shop out of boredom. Trying to save for a house at the same time...well the two don't quite mix! Glad you have a happier balance!

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  23. Great post. Ugh Online shopping is just so tempting and way too easy to do. I'm glad you like your new job and are feeling happier. I used to work full time when I had my first son and I was a miserable wreck. Once I went part time it as like a huge weight was lifted. The money situation would be nicer with me working full time but the things I'd miss out on would never be worth it. I used to work two afternoons into the evening and hated it! I could not imagine doing actual night shifts. XO Congrats on the newfound motivation and happiness! !

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  24. George and I recorded some documentary on happiness, and it really goes into this. It talks about how once people have the things they really need like food and shelter, increased money doesn't do a whole lot to increase happiness. It's hard to not always want more, more, more. I just try to think about how little my grandparents had and how happy they were.

    Love the post!

    -Em

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  25. Congratulations on your new job! New follower here from the Thursday linkup. Love your blog!

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  26. I couldn't agree more! Sometimes it's nice to take a step back and realize that money truly cannot buy happiness! I'm glad that things are working out for you with your new job! :)

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