Privacy

by Ally- Life as I know it, 5:00 AM

I feel like oversharing has become the new norm with social media. Some people share so much of their lives that it makes you wonder if there's anything they don't put on the internet. Of course it's a personal preference of how much you want to share but this is something I've been thinking about a lot lately since the baby will be here before we know it. Do I want to put the baby on my blog and social media? I'm really torn down the middle. I see so many Momma's post every single thing their kid does on their blogs and Instagram and as much as I love seeing what their kids are wearing and how cute they are, do I want to expose my child all over the internet for strangers to see? It's such a scary world and after having our picture taken from my blog and put on Plenty of Fish as a fake account it made realize even though my blog isn't huge, if you put it on the internet it's for anyone to take. A lot of people do the Watermarking now which helps hopefully against people stealing your pictures but it still means that picture is on the internet for anyone to see.


I haven't shared the baby's name yet because it's something I want to keep special till he's here but also because I'm just not sure what I want to share. Aside from random people reading my blog, I also have family I don't talk to and I'm not sure I want them knowing all about my child from just Googling my name and coming across my blog. 

Of course I also know I'm going to want to talk all about the baby on my blog because he's going to be the center of my world. And since I've shared a good bit of my pregnancy on my blog it only makes sense for me to talk about the baby that came from it! 

I'd love to hear from other mother's how you decided to share or not share your child's life on your blog. I'm sure this is something that goes through everyone's mind because it's one thing for you to talk about your life, but to have your child all over the internet without their permission is another. 

Here's some interesting articles about mom's who stopped sharing their kids on the internet:

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  1. I am one of those moms...well used to be. Lately as Bre gets older I feel I dont share AS much. If I post stuff on my blog, I make sure I watermark my pictures! As for social media,I try not to post too much personal stuff more pictures here and there (for out of town family!) my accts are private so only people I know can see!

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  2. I don't have kids yet but I do think about this and it's a hard one. The whole reason I really started my blog was as an online journal of sorts, and it would seem crazy to leave the biggest part of my life off of it! But there are also a lot of creepers out there that are just bad people. I'm looking forward to reading the rest of the comments here because I have no idea what I'll do when that time comes yet!

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  3. Well considering we just talked about this you know how torn I am when that time comes too! I feel like it's a personal decision you and Theo will come to! :) xo, Biana

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  4. I don't know what I'll do when that day comes either. I really like using my blog as a personal journal to keep track of things I do, so ideally a child would be a part of that. However, do I want everyone reading about what I do with my kid? Maybe I'll just stick to a traditional baby book.

    xo, Carly soak and simmer

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  5. I think the older (and wiser?!) I get the more I think about this stuff, and the more I've scaled back on what I share. It's really hard though. I wish we didn't have to be scared of the creepy/bad people out there, because I enjoy sharing my life with friends and family and also the kind, like-minded individuals I've connected with via the internet. Unfortunately though, there's always the possibility of some sicko lurking behind their phone or computer at the same time. I honestly have no idea what I would do if I had a child. I feel like most people I know do share, a lot. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, it's just about the tolerance level you have for the potential creeps out there. I know several people who have had their photos stolen, some laugh it off, others get terribly upset. I think I'd probably be able to shrug it off as long as I wasn't feeling physically threatened by somebody. Even then, I have ADT, a dog, and a handgun, so I sleep pretty well at night despite knowing there are some bad people out there! We're bound to cross paths with them at some point whether we know it or not. I imagine having a baby though will make you feel more guarded and protective than ever before. I'm also interested in hearing what other people say about this.

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  6. Especially with snapchat. I'm like do you think your kids would appreciate you putting snaps of changing their diapers on there??? Clearly I know you would never do that but like hello over sharing much??? It's hard because we all know so much about each other and I can't wait to see how handsome your little man is going to be but it's totally personal how much you want to share. Oh yeah girl when that day comes I'm not sharing any names because everyone knew a "steven" in High school that was mean or something. Everyone has an opinion!

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  7. i'm really happy with how i have decided to share some things about violet on the blog but not too much detail. i also feel comfortable with the photos i have shared online and not showing her face really hasnt been an issue. if you want to share other images consider creating a private instagram account + changing your facebook page to private (if it isnt already). I love having a private instagram account where i can share a daily photo of her with my friends + family and eventually i'm going to turn that into a book (bc who has time to make a scrapbook?!) xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  8. I think what Jillian did is the safest way to go about it if you are really concerned. I opted to watermark near R's face and I'm comfortable with that for now, but its definitely a personal decision. I also feel like the blog is a journal and wouldn't want to leave R out of it... its one way a lot of our out of town family can see what we're up to and see photos of him. The one thing I don't do is share any of his developmental milestones... like monthly updates on what he has learned, etc. I don't think that's necessary to share though I do track it for myself and for his baby book.

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  9. I agree with Cait. I had to stay true to myself and I created the blog to share my life. That life includes P and I am okay sharing her image. I do watermark now (as you know) but I also post her on Facebook with my own private account (I have no facebook page for my blog). It's completely up to you!!
    Again like Cait I do not share monthly milestones anymore. I reverted them all into draft mode and just stopped doing them at 6 months. Mostly because in reality - no one cares but me! So why have all that info out there if I don't need it to be?

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  10. I totally understand your point. A lot of my friends and family share way too much on social media and say it's for their family to see. That's fine, but I still don't know. If you want to see the baby that bad, maybe come and visit? DG and I have talked about it a lot, and we just don't think we feel comfortable with it. xo Champagne&Suburbs

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  11. I try to find a balance. I try not to talk too much about my kids on my blog and if and when I do - I never use their names and ALWAYS watermark. I also put a limited amount of pictures of them (showing their faces) on my Kids and Cabernet IG. I have a personal one that's I fill with their faces, names and cute stories. I'm not sure if my way is the right way, but it has worked for me (so far).

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  12. I can't believe your picture was used on Plenty of Fish! That's just creepy. I have some family members too that I don't want knowing what's going on in my life. It's a struggle sometimes with the oversharing.

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  13. It's a hard balance to strike these days with blogging because everyone expects you to share every detail of your life with them. Including tons of pictures of your kids. I try to keep a balance like I will share pictures but maybe not full details about what we did or what my kids are up to. I'm rarely on FB and really only post on instagram. I have a private one but hate switching between the two so they all end up on my public one. My suggestion is do what feels right to you and dont let anyone make you feel bad or guilty.

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  14. I've slowed down for sure. I do still post some of my fave pics of my kids on my blog, but recently just revamped and moved my blog to wordpress and I plan on posting a lot less of them and mainly just outfits, home decor, etc. I have learned that you can't constantly worry about the Internet - it is what it is and we accept it and use social media or don't. There will always be some crazies out there. The main thing to do is keep your address, SSN, and phone numbers private. I keep my personal FB page private to friends only. I use my blog FB pages for blog stuff. It's hard not to over post - especially when you have a new baby (you may find this out soon!) Just be smart, be as safe as you can and try not to worry about it all. That does suck about the Plenty of Fish thing...I'm sure my pic is probably out there somewhere too. It's sad. I do try to remember to watermark most of my pictures with my blog address, but I don't know how much that actually helps, honestly...it's more to protect your blog content.

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