back to reality + oliver at 3 months

by Ally- Life as I know it, 5:00 AM
I just finished up my second week of work since my maternity leave ended. Let's just say I've never been more exhausted in my life. I thought the newborn phase was rough, this whole working thing and having to take care of a baby may be harder. Not only did I go back to work after 12 weeks off, I started a brand new job. Maybe that wasn't the best idea but in the long run it's going to work out great. Now that I have two weeks behind me I'm finally getting in the groove of things. One of my biggest anxieties about going back to work was knowing that I'd have to pump. Although there is a law in place that says your work place has to allow you to pump, thank god for that, it's still a big inconvenience on your co workers. Luckily everyone has been really understanding. I was really worried about my supply dipping once I went back to work but so far it hasn't. 

My mom watches Oliver while I work which I am SO thankful for. I'm still trying to figure out a nighttime routine once I bring him home. He really benefits from a nap about an hour before bed time or else he'll end up being overtired but getting him to nap isn't always easy. And somehow he's teething?! He's only 3 months I can't believe he's teething already! He's become so fussy at night and screams and cries when it's time for bed. I've had to give him Tylenol three nights in a row which I hate so if anyone has any non medicinal remedies let me know! 

My postpartum hair loss has started which I heard doesn't start till later especially if you're breastfeeding. Guess not for me! It's falling out in clumps which is wonderful. How long does it go on for?

This whole mom thing is hard work. And I don't handle stress very well, I let it build up and then explode on poor Theo. He's such a great daddy and helps out so much with Oliver. I felt like I finally had Oliver on a daily routine that was working out great then I went back to work and we have to start all over again. And then with the teething and fighting sleep, ay yi yi. I just have to keep reminding myself everything is just a phase! When that sweet boy smiles, it makes me forget about anything else going on but how much I love him. 

We're finally out of the 4th trimester, woo hoo! The third month has definitely been the month he's really come into his own personality. He notices everything around him and "talks" or coos all the time. He's a pretty smiley happy baby for the most part, but if he's upset, you'll know it. He has some pipes!

Oliver is wearing 3 months and 3-6 months now. He's in size 2 diapers and has been since around week 6 or so. He pretty much lives in long sleeve one pieces. The footed ones are the most convenient for the winter.

Still exclusively breastfed and eating anywhere from 5-7 times a day. He takes 3 bottles a day when I'm working, 5 oz in each bottle. Although my mom said he's been scarfing down 6 oz, sometimes more lately! 

A few weeks before I went back to work I was determined to get him on a schedule so it'll be easier for my mom while I'm at work. I leave the house at 6:30am Monday-Thursday so I pump around 6:15am and leave out a 5oz bottle for Theo to give Oliver at 7am. Then Theo takes him to my mom's around 8am and she puts him down for a nap. He then takes a bottle at 10am and goes back down for a nap around 11am. Then another bottle at 1pm then naps or plays till I get there at 4pm and I nurse him. When we get home I end up nursing him again a lot of times around 5pm and then I put him down for about an hour nap. I get him up around 6:30pm, give him a bath then nurse and put him to bed at 7:30pm. He sleeps about 8-9 hours straight and tends to wake up around 3am-4am to eat which really sucks for me because my alarm goes off at 5am, grrr! - Ok so this is how last week ran, since he's been extra fussy and teething this week, it hasn't been running as smoothly. Just when you think you've got this whole baby thing under control, they switch it up on you!

Let's just say no two nights are the same. Getting him to go to sleep is the issue. I've found that he gets overtired if he's been awake for too long and then has a really hard time falling asleep. I try to put him down for a nap as soon as I see his first yawn. It ends up being about an 1 hour-1 hour 15 minutes from when he woke up. If I wait too long, he'll fight sleep. The same goes for at night. Luckily once he goes to sleep he's out for hours.

He loves to "talk" and watch people. He's just started to notice Pixie and stares at her. He loves his bath so much, it's precious. He likes to go on walks in the Ergo but gets really mad if you stop moving. He's starting to like tummy time especially when I put him on his changing table and he can see me eye to eye. He loves to be held and walked around. I've started putting him in the Mamas and Papas seat but he isn't too sure what he thinks about it yet. 

Somedays he won't like to breastfeed, no idea why, he'll just fight me to eat. I end up having to walk around the room and bounce him. I like to blame it on a Wonder Week but who really knows. Still doesn't love taking a bottle but will do it. Doesn't really care for a paci. 

"Hey, you been here the whole time?"

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  1. I have no doubt that you will get in your groove soon enough girl!! Such a blessing to have your mom taking care of him during the day - that's my dream when that time comes for me! Have a great weekend! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

  2. Gerber Soothe Drops were the best for us with those early nighttime fussy nights! We did them about a month straight (it's just a probiotic) because I noticed even if she was good a few days, we'd stop and it would start right back up! Are you already feeling the teeth? Poor guy is starting early!! Teething basically just sucks and their isn't a sure fix to help, sadly. We have just a few left and then we'll be down to 2 year molars. Blah! Google baby banana (it's labeled as a toothbrush sometimes but it's not). That's a great chew one even the tiniest babies can hold! I think it's around $6 on amazon!

  3. Oh my gosh he is getting so big! Can't wait to see him!! Going back to work and having to readjust your schedule with a baby is so hard but I promise it does get easier, it just takes a few weeks! And my postpartum hair loss started at 3 months too... it was horrible and it lasted until about 7 months PP I think. I have a lot of crappy little hairs growing back now, so annoying!

  4. He's growing up s fast! Such a handsome boy! Love reading that he's noticing sweet Pixie...I am sure watching that bond unfold will be so fun!!! xx

  5. Everything is a phase. You're right - just when you think you've got it all under control, it changes again. Be easy on yourself. You're doing great! Get these for teething and throw them in your freezer. Get some for your house and some for your Mom's.

  6. Second week down! Congratulations - and you still somehow found time for a blog post? I'd say you're doing great!! Leo has that little neuron rattle thing too and just loves it! He too has started the teething process (WHAT!!!!) and he just could gum that thing all day long!

  7. Girl hang in there. It's so tough but I promise ONE DAY he will sleep through the night and it will get a whole lot easier. Just know that it is on the horizon!

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  9. Whoops I accidentally posted under my husband's account!! I wrote, I love those smiles in the last set of pictures! I'm sure you will settle into a routine shortly. Change is never easy, but you got this!

  10. I'm amazed and in awe of you working mommies and respect you all so much! I can't imagine how hard it must be to go to work after only 12 weeks. Things will get easier and you will get into a routine and it will be amazing :) good luck mama you are doing great!

  11. You're doing a great job, mama! I love reading your thoughts, because honestly, everything you're feeling is what I'm scared I'll feel. It seems more normal! :) Keep your head up! You're a rockstar! xo, Champagne&Suburbs

  12. He has the best smile! I love these updates from you. You have always been so real and going back to work while breastfeeding is no joke! I'm glad your coworkers have been understanding!

  13. Girl you are so right that as soon as you've got it down, babe goes changing it all up again! Things are still constantly changing, but I feel like after about 6 months, I was better able to just take the changes into stride and readjust without feeling like my world was being turned upside down again. YOu're getting back into the groove of work, and now pumping, and dealing with babe and a work schedule so this is the hard stuff and as he continues to get easier and more flexible -that'll make a big difference too! You're doing great! xo


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