life as a new mom: 1 year later

by Ally- Life as I know it, 5:00 AM

Now that we're approaching the one year mark, I find myself thinking a lot about where I was this time last year and how hard it was with a newborn. Life is so great right now it's hard to even remember back when it wasn't so easy. So before I forget it all, I thought I'd write about what I've learned as a new mom this past year. I figure it also might come in handy with future baby #2! 

It's all a phase

I think this was the #1 thing I got told every single day, but at the moment when you're in the thick of those glamorous newborn days, it's hard to believe it. The cluster feedings, no sleep, all out crying fests, fussiness, baby won't sleep anywhere but your chest, you name it, it gets better. Now that I've been through it I know it doesn't last forever, but at the time I really did think this was my life from now on. Not going to lie, there were many times I wished for my old easy life, and wondered if I had made a mistake! Now that I've been through it once, I'll know for the next time to enjoy the ride because it doesn't last. Oliver still has many "phases" where one day he naps great, the next day he doesn't. One day he's fussy, the next day he's happy as can be. One day he likes eggs, the day he's throwing them on the ground. It's all a phase!

Don't stress about a schedule

Being the naive new mom that I was, by 2 weeks I was determined to get Oliver on a schedule. I mean how hard can it be to get a baby on a schedule? Extremely hard! Oliver was a snacker and never wanted to get a whole meal when he nursed at first. He was eating every 1.5-2 hours and had no desire to stretch it to 3 hours. This stressed me out like crazy because I wanted him to go longer so I could lead somewhat of a normal life. Which also meant naps were all over the place. What eventually worked for us was a routine rather than a set schedule and to this day we still have more of a routine than set times when things are supposed to happen. 

You will get sleep again..sorta

Oliver sleeps great, he didn't at first but by month 6 he had it down. So me being tired everyday at work has nothing to do with him. I stay up way too late now just so I can have some me time even though it sacrifices my sleep. After I get ready for bed I like to lay in bed and check my phone, read, or watch TV just so I can have that time to myself. I actually just read an article on Scary Mommy about how moms tend to do this. As much as we adore and love our children, we need that alone time. Even if it means I'm tired everyday!

If the diaper is starting to leak, go up a size

My friend Cait give me this great advice and it's so true! I think a lot of people automatically assume it's the brand but really your baby just needs the next size. And don't even go off of the size range on the diapers. They are so off!

It's ok to cry

I definitely had some Baby Blues at first as I'm sure everyone does, and found myself crying about everything. You feel so guilty feeling this way but let's face it, coming home with a new baby is hard as hell and to top it off you're running off of no sleep! So cry all you want!

Always pack a spare change of clothes

I learned this the hard way at Oliver's very first pediatrician's appointment. We lived 5 minutes away, did I really need to bring him a change of clothes? It doesn't matter if you live a block way or 2 hours, if the baby poops all over himself, you need a change of clothes! Now I never leave home without em!

The guilt never ends

Not a day goes by that I don't worry I'm doing something wrong and it's going to screw Oliver up for the rest of his life. I know so dramatic! Whenever I feel this way I think back to the first few months of his life and not a single thing I did wrong, or what I thought was wrong, has ruined him.. well so far! The mom guilt will never go away, just do your best and remember your baby has no idea you're new at this!

Babies don't keep

I look at time so differently now since I had Oliver, this year went by in a flash. Although at first I was wishing he would grow up, I hated the newborn stage, can you tell?, now I'm begging for life to slow down and for me to get more time with him. So when I come home after a long day of work I let those dishes sit in the sink, the laundry stay in the dryer, and I spend all my time with him because he's only getting older and one day he won't want to play with me. And with my next child I'm going to do the same and enjoy those early days where you never leave the couch but to eat or use the restroom. Looking back I really miss those lazy days with my baby!

This has been such a fun, exhausting, rewarding, exciting year with my little man and I can't wait to see what the next year holds!
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  1. I love this post and agree with you on it all - especially the passing of time. It HONESTLY feels like last week we were texting about our pregnancy woes!

  2. I love this! It's all so true. I'm much more laid back as a mom than I thought I would ever be but when you are in the moment it is so hard!! PS I love that dress!!

  3. These are so true! It is so rewarding, even after a long day!

  4. I love this! I have a similar post I'm working on for this week. Those first couple of months are HARD hard hard, but now looking back I'm realizing how fast they did go and that everything really truly is a phase and I almost kind of miss the craziness of the very beginning. Now if only I could get her to sleep all night haha. Can't believe Oliver is almost one!!

  5. Oh yes, Caroline is 8 months old and I hate/love how quickly she has grown!!

  6. Great post! I miss those snuggly baby days (but not the hard, emotional, sleepless days).

  7. You are seriously my go to when it comes to all things mom and baby right now (well you know when that day comes!). I love how honest and well researched you are. Plus, you are all about the hippie natural products like I am. Keep it up. You are doing such a fab job and I love following you along ;)

  8. I love this post and you will be so happy to look back on it in the future! I agree with everything 100%. It's amazing how fast we forget things. A friend of mine has a newborn now and she's asking my breastfeeding questions and I swear I've already forgotten. That phase seems so long ago already!

  9. YES to not stressing about a schedule. There's so much pressure to get your baby into a routine, but every baby is different! And always having a change of clothes is something they should tell you before you leave the will ALWAYS need them haha!

  10. You do learn a lot that makes you look at #2 differently! You'll enjoy more and be so much more laid back, having learned that even the crappy stuff will be over with quickly! ha

  11. This is such a sweet post! I'm glad you wrote this post. Great advice! xx, I'm Fixin' To


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