6 Things Having a Second Baby Has Taught Me

by Ally- Life as I know it, 10:52 AM

First, Elsie is 6 months old! I can not believe it! I want her to stay little forever. It's not fair how much faster the second child's life goes by. 

To go along with her turning 6 months, I thought I would share 6 things I've learned since having a second baby. Things you don't realize until you go through it!

1. Goodbye Me Time

When we just had Oliver, if one of us needed to go run an errand or be out of the house for a few hours, heck just take a shower!, the other parent would watch him. He's easy and he takes a long afternoon nap so no big deal. Now it's pretty much impossible to find the time to do anything solo. We do a lot of divide and conquer. He'll take Oliver to run errands and I'll stay home with Elsie, but you still need that time to yourself. It's very hard to come by these days. I stay up late too many nights just to have some time to myself. Our house is a mess majority of the time and if it is clean, it won't last for long. I have to remind myself a lot of times that this is just the season in our life and they're only little for so long so enjoy it. All the chores can wait because babies don't keep.

2. Much Easier Than I Expected

Having a second baby is a breeze compared to your first. You know everything is a phase and you just enjoy it more. I don't know if it's my attitude or what but everything about Elsie has just been easier. Breastfeeding was easier, her sleep has been easier, she's been a calm baby. I like to think my relaxed attitude has rubbed off on her but it could also just be her personality. Either way, I find things that bothered me when Oliver was a baby, don't bother me with her. It's refreshing

3. Your Heart Really Does Grow

I know this is cliche but it's so true. I can remember when Oliver was a year and thinking to myself that I think we're content with one child. Life is finally feeling normal and why should we switch it up? I could never imagine loving another baby as much as I loved him. Then he turned 18 months and I started thinking maybe I could see us having a second. The day I found out I was pregnant with Elsie, I just knew this was right. Even though she was just a teeny tiny lentil at the time, my love for her was there already. It didn't take Oliver's place, it multiplied the love I had.

4. Your Body Is Just Not The Same

Although I gained the same amount of weight with each pregnancy, after this second one I have not bounced back like I did with Oliver's pregnancy. I have 10ish lbs that will not budge and regardless, my stomach is just not the same as it was pre-pregnancy.  I'm really not that worried about it. I'm still nursing, so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it but it just doesn't bother me like it would have in my 20's. I've had two kids and I'm proud of how I look. I still need to cool it on the sweets for health reasons but I'm embracing this new "mom bod". If it's cool for dad's, why can't it be for moms?

5. Leaving The House Is No Biggie

When Oliver was a baby we would literally take everything he owned anytime we went somewhere. Now, I bring diapers, wipes, a snack for Oliver, and a sippy cup of water, and we're off. I always nurse/bottle Elsie before we go somewhere just to make it easier. Now I'm not saying actually being somewhere with two kids is easy, because it is not!, but just actually getting out of the house is a lot easier than I expected. By the time baby #2 comes a long, you realize what you need and don't need to get out of the house quick.

6. I Actually Enjoy Breastfeeding This Time

...and don't want to stop! What?! Who am I?! I hated breastfeeding Oliver. Couldn't stop fast enough. It wasn't his fault, it just didn't come easy for me and I felt like it consumed my life. With Elsie, I don't want it to end! It's been SO much easier second time around. I also think I'm not ready to stop nursing because it's my way of holding onto her being a baby. We're not having any more babies after her, and I'm just not ready to say goodbye to it yet. My supply has dipped since I've had to pump at work and since she started to sleep through the night. We have to supplement with formula here and there but I'm still sticking it out. I've decided to make small goals for myself. I made it to 6 months, so let's see if I can make it to 9 months. If not, she'll be just fine on formula!
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  1. I had my second baby 2 years ago - they are 21 months apart. I totally agree with every thing you shared!


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